The Perfect Jedi Party

In January, our oldest turned seven.
One day before I began treatment for my thyroid cancer.

Last January, our oldest turned six.
The same day as my last chemo treatment for my breast cancer.

Both years he had the flu for his birthday.

The poor kid can’t catch a break.

But he has never complained. (I’ve done all the complaining for him.)

This year, he started talking about his birthday party in October. This is the first year he’s had a party of his school and church friends. He dreamed, schemed, planned, and begged for a Star Wars party. The problem was I couldn’t do it… I had just had surgery. I was on medication that was slowly depleting my body of all my energy and causing severe depression. I was going to be in isolation.

And I was overwhelmed in my heart because I wanted so badly to give him what his heart desired. I wept over this. I ached for him. I ached for myself.

But Ash? He never cried. He only looked at me and said, “It’s okay, Mom. We’ll figure something out.” He is his daddy’s boy.

As time passed, I realized it was taking me longer and longer to rebound from this last treatment, and birthday party planning only heightened my stress. I longed to do it for him, but I couldn’t figure out how. Then my hero arrived in all her dark beauty. Monica. Listening to me on the phone, she said, “Let me do it. I’ll be there in 3 weeks for the weekend. Let’s throw him a party then. I’ll do it all.

See, Monica understood me on a level that no one else could, because last year she was in the hospital when her oldest turned 5, and she couldn’t throw the party Laney wanted. Instead, Moni’s sister-in-law took over and threw the party for her.

And it was perfect.

So Moni took over and threw the party for me.

And two months after his birthday, Ash donned his new Darth Vader tee shirt, Bear cloaked himself in Luke’s hooded cape, Bella just sparkled like a princess, and we had a Star Wars Party. It was a fun-filled day complete with a Jedi Master, party games including a Jedi Obstacle Course, an ice cream cake, pizza, and friends.

And it was perfect.

11 responses to “The Perfect Jedi Party”

  1. The pictures filled my eyes with tears! What a truly perfect celebration for a precious little, I mean, an ever growing Asher…but still precious.:)

    Sending much love…


  2. Oh, it’s so great to see pictures of all of you again! I feel like every time I see a new picture, you all have changed more, and I’m so sad that I missed the change 😦 But, I’m also super glad for the internet that lets me keep in touch with you all and continue to see you virtually!
    Btw, your hair is really cute!

    Love and many hugs,


  3. Grandma and Grandpa Avatar
    Grandma and Grandpa

    My favorite picture is the one of Asher with his mom and dad – three very happy faces.


  4. Every good and


    gift comes from the Father…

    Thank you Father for perfect Jedi parties for noble hearted boys… for caring friends like Monica… for courageous families like Angie’s who celebrate life… no matter what.

    Yes… our Father knows about perfect….


  5. I love it, what a good friend! Monica rocks. And so do you.


  6. Glad I wasn’t the only one who cried. I wish I had a friend like Monica! She is a true blessing to you!


  7. Thank God for great friends and sweet, compassionate little boys!
    So glad it was a great day!


  8. That’s a great story. You have such a wonderful little boy, to understand like that. You know, he has learned that from you and from his Daddy. What a wonderful commentary on your parenting!

    Glad the party went so well. It is also a tribute to you that you have so many good friends. 🙂


  9. Hi Angie,

    What a fun looking party! SO, SO glad you have a friend like Monica able to come do that for all of you. Together you made you gave your little boy a very special birthday memory! Hope you’re having a blessed day.


  10. wow, that was a perfect party!
    how great it is to know that we are not only called to glorify God’s in our own lives, but to encourage eachother in the body as well.


  11. Your 7 y.o. is very mature. Looks like a fun party – thank goodness for friends. Happy Birthday to him!


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