It’s All In A Name: Part Four

For thus the Lord GOD,
the Holy One of Israel, has said,
“In repentance and rest you will be saved,
In quietness and trust is your strength.” (Isaiah 30:15a)


My Brian.

Noble. Strength.

And a ruthless trust that has led me through the darkest days of my life.

I stood with a friend last week in my kitchen. She was catching up on life with me and she reached out, touched my arm, her cheeks dimpling as she smiled, “Aren’t you so thankful you have your Brian?”

My eyes filled up with tears, “I can’t even begin to describe it. 20 months of this, and I can’t remember ONE time that he has complained. He has hated it, he has suffered, but he has never complained. He has only loved.”

That, my friends, is noble strength.

In her book, Cold Tangerines, Shauna Niequist writes:

I had thought that we became a family the day we were married. What I have found, though, is that the web starts as just one fine filament on that day, and spins and spins around us as life presents itself to us day by day. And on some days, the strands spin around us double-time, spinning us like a top and binding us like rubber cement…

That’s how family gets made. Not by ceremonies or certificates, and not by parties and celebrations. Family gets made when you decide to hold hands and sit shoulder to shoulder when it seems like the sky is falling. Family gets made when the world becomes strange and disorienting, and the only face you recognize is his. Family gets made when the future obscures itself like a solar eclipse, and in the intervening darkness, you decide that no matter what happens in the night, you’ll face it as one.

Quietness and trust.

Noble strength.

Words that epitomize my husband. The face that I recognized in the darkness. The arms that held me during the eclipse. The man that I will call my family forever.

8 responses to “It’s All In A Name: Part Four”

  1. I loved this series of posts. All beautiful names. All beautiful people. I especially enjoyed your husband’s post – what a wonderful man.


  2. We are so very thankful for “your Brian” and the noble strength that God has given him.

    We love him so,
    Mom and Dad


  3. I love these post on the names of your family members! Beautiful!


  4. “Family gets made when you decide to hold hands and sit shoulder to shoulder when it seems like the sky is falling.”

    I remember the first time I came down to see you after you had started your chemo. It was a Sunday morning so I met up with all of you at church. From behind I didn’t recognize you because you were wearing your wig (the brown one not the red one). I finally recognized Brian and the kids from back of the sanctuary. But before I approached you, I realized that things had changed. You were not the same family that I known during college. You had grown closer…and rather than being 5 separate members of one family, you were facing cancer as one.

    It has been quite the journey since then. I am grateful for every opportunity that I’ve had to see your family grow, transform and face it all together.


  5. What a great post for your Brian. I love the quote about what makes family. A big ‘pet peeve’ of mine is when people ask us “When will you start a family?” and I think back over the past 5 years and want to say, we have a family! Thank-you for reinforcing that while yes, children may cause a family to grow, a family they do not make…that it starts with us.

    I’m hoping for a Part Five – Angie :).


  6. I’m loving these posts too. And I LOVE the quote you shared here. It’s one of the best things I’ve read in a long time. So true.


  7. I’ve loved this sweet little series. I have to let you know that whenever Nathan catches me on your blog – he always asks “Can those friends come and visit us again?” Y’all made a lasting impression on a sensitive little guy.


  8. Wow, this is great, I loved that quote about how family is made. Loved it!


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